Some things that can happen when we work together…
#1: Embrace your personality because it makes you YOU and that is amazing.
#2: Remember lost dreams you are excited to resurrect again.
#3: Find new dreams to go after that you don’t realize are a possibility.
#4: You set boundaries and decide how people will treat you so you attract even more amazing people in your life.
#5: Celebrate the hell out of the life you have already created and each kick ass thing you now plan to do!
I had forgotten how to dream. I was scared to dream big and bold. I didn’t think I even I knew how! And I was definitely having trouble asking for what I wanted. Because I couldn’t find the words to say what I wanted! So, I was super glad to take up my pal Val Selby’s offer to coach me and help me figure out what bold dream I’d been hiding and how to ask for what I wanted. I
t came at the right time as my husband and I, after years of hard work and some seriously good fortune/timing/luck, were in a position to look for a vacation (and possible retirement) home. A place we could gather all our friends to hang, party, and chill. But I was having a hard time pinpointing what I wanted in this space, where I wanted it to be, what was essential to making ME happy. Val’s exercises and guidance helped me see my dream, give it details, and find my voice to ask for the features of this house I wanted. There were fits, starts, a lot of weekends looking in literally the wrong places.
But with Val’s coaching in my head, I was finally confident to say ‘hey. this isn’t what I want. This isn’t going to make me happy. the mountains are wrong. I need water.’ And we looked for places on the water – but still in the wrong locations. But from our coaching I felt more confident that I could see and speak what was going to be right for me, for us. And with Val’s voice in my head (and on Voxer!), I was bold and said, ‘nope, this still isn’t it.’
Maybe sometimes we have to look in the wrong places in order to find the right place. And it takes knowing for ourselves what is right for each of us, to fully embrace that dream, that want, and then ask for it.
Today I’m sitting on the deck of our amazing, incredibly right-for-us, house on the bayside of the NJ coast. Right on the water. With a ‘to die for’ view. I got the bold dream I didn’t know I wanted or thought I’d forgotten how to look for, until Val helped me see it. I pinch myself as I have the incredible luck to be literally living my dream.
A Quick Glimpse into
Working With Me:
To decide if coaching is right for you, I invite you to schedule an initial consultation with me.
Let’s take 15 minutes to get to know each other and see if you are ready for coaching to get to your best life.
My Personal Journey
8 years ago I went through a total hysterectomy (both ovaries) and our oldest graduated. Since then the youngest graduated and we’ve lost two beloved parents.
5 years ago I made a choice to put myself first and my birthday was amazeballs.
That night we finally checked our phones and my beloved FIL had died.
I could have continued to live in my whoa-is-me very easily. No one would have blamed me when I told them my FIL died on my bday. But I chose to finally choose me.
I’ve helped 100’s of firefighter wives since 2008 put themselves first even though their hubby’s are doing “hero” things.
What I found was a connection between those of us in midlife and a major mindset change happening that needed to be addressed.
Setting boundaries in your life and saying where things stop and start is key to happiness.
You have a personality and expertise that needs to be shared. You have decades of knowledge to put to use and create your best life.
“What I found to be most helpful about coaching with Val wasn’t that wasn’t that we worked on some big grandiose thing.
Instead she met me where I was at, struggling wiith a few things that I was overcomplicating, and helped me focus on the baby steps, of what I wanted to do to get the results I wanted.”
Tish Lee – ShiningSelf.com
“Val’s coaching was spot on for me and came at the time I needed it most. She has been through similar situations, which helped her relate to me. I am an empty nester that is ready to start the next chapter.
I found that I am able to push myself to do things that I otherwise didn’t think I could do before.
I look forward to more coaching with her.”
Elizabeth H.
I believe in you. Ready to move forward? Lets do it!
